I
will talk about divorce in Japan and the United States. The reason why I
examined the issue of divorce is that my host mother experienced a divorce.
Before I went to America, I have heard that there is a high divorce rate in the
United States. But I didn't know what it a fact. And I didn't even know about
divorce in Japan. Therefore I intended to examine the issue of divorce of the
two countries.
1.
In Japan
According
to the Statistics Bureau of the Management and Coordination Agency and
Statistics Abstract of the United States 2010, in statistics of the number of
divorces per 1,000 person mouths, Japan is the 26th place. So Japan’s divorce
rate is lower than any other countries. According to the Ministry of Health,
Labour and Welfare, Japanese number of divorces has increased sharply in1975
and according to the divorce statistics of the government, the number of divorces
has declined slightly since peaking in 2002. The number of divorces in 2010 is
250,000 cases, and a one-third of the couple will be divorced in comparison with
the number of the marriage. The number of divorce rate in Japan is not so high but
the fact that many people of couple divorced.
According
to judiciary statistics, the reasons of the statement of the divorce are
different in men and women. There are many reasons. For example, men’s main
reasons are “A personality clash” is the most reason, and “Relations with the
opposite sex” is the next reason, and “Abnormal character”. Women’s main
reasons are “A personality clash” is the most reason; “Use violence” is the
next reason, and “Relations with the opposite sex”. Their common reason is a personality
clash. But in men and women, a purpose and contents of the communication are
different. In case of men, their content of conversation is concisely and speaks
plainly. In case of women, they think that mutual cooperation as the most
important thing in the conversation. So they talk about information of own
private things and they want to have jointly about emotional with partner.
Objective difference in communication causes a personality clash. And
incompatibility of temperament is behind the divorce.
2.
In US
America is known as the high divorce rate country
in the world. According to Statistical Abstract of the United States 2010,
divorce rate in America is ranked four in the world. And according to a survey
by American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (AAML) in 2010, the numbers of
divorces which cause by Facebook are increasing. According to AAML’s lawyer,
recently they use SNS as a conversation tool and it became cause of divorce.
For example, it was found out to have sent an inappropriate message to the opposite
sex in Facebook. A couple living apart abused a partner on Facebook. And they
received information from their friends of Facebook about the action of their
spouse. All the people in the world can watch SNS anywhere and anytime. According
to『The Secret Lives of Wives: Women Share What
It Really Takes to Stay Married』American couples’ the reason why they
divorced is their heart separate. And the point unlike Japan is religion cause
the divorce. But this is a minority opinion, so heart is the most important
reason for Japan and America.
Recently there are many new businesses for
the divorcee For example, the radio program which the expert of the divorce
sends advice to for the question from a listener. And event for divorced people
were held in America. The event presented a lot of information about divorce,
and there were many instructive books, moreover the professional lawyer and an
accountant who accept distribution of property came to the event and helped
couple. According to NHK ONLINE, there are planners of divorce party in
America. The divorce party is hold for their new life, and through this party
they dispelled their feelings toward husband. Recently, new types of divorce
businesses are appearing in America.
3.
Conclusion
Recently Japan and America’s divorce rate
are now declining. But a lot of couple divorce in the world. Their children are
greatly influenced by divorce. According to investigate by Institute for
American Values, daughters whose parents divorced become an unmarried mother
rate is high. And when their children become a working member of society, their
unemployment rate is higher than children whose parents are not divorced. And
when they become adults, many of them receive a prison sentence. There are a
lot of factors that divorce is a negative impact on children’s growth.
According to Professor Lamb, the first reason is Parent-child relationship
faded. And economic situation of children is worsening. Mother’s working hours
increase. Conflict continues between parents. And they feel the stress of
raised by a parent.
My
host brothers and sisters can’t live with their father. And especially my host
sisters miss her father very much, and they often go to her father’s house. And
while I stayed the house, they showed me their father’s pictures and talked me reminiscence.
The reason why my host mother decided to divorce is she didn't love him and couldn't respect him too. When she divorced, her children were young, but she
decided to bring up them by herself. Now
her children grow up and she began to thinking own happiness, and she wants to
get married again to her boyfriend. But she can’t do now, because her children
don’t agree the marriage. Children don’t want to have a new father and new
brothers and sisters. My host mother has 2 jobs, she is very busy mother. So
her worry is that she can’t have a lot of time with her children. When her
children are in the house, usually she is not there. She tried to have a talk
time with her children when she had a time. I think that divorce is not good
things for oneself and own children. I want to decrease a divorce rate. But if
they have to divorce, they should have a lot of time for their children. And
they should make time which their children meet a divorced partner. Divorce is
not just a matter of parents.
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